SECRETS TO A LASTING AND JOYFUL MARRIAGE.
Advice For Building A Healthy Relationship
Marriage is an incredible gift and a lifelong commitment between two individuals. It requires both emotional and physical energy, as well as a deep understanding of each other's needs and desires. Although there is no magical formula for having a lasting and joyful marriage, there are certain God ordained principles that can help couples create a strong foundation upon which they can build healthy relationships.
I am writing from my own 38 years of practical experience in this institution called marriage.
As I said earlier I am still learning despite my years of experience.We will discuss the essential elements of a successful marriage, such as understanding the foundations of a healthy marriage, managing conflict in a positive way, open and honest communication, maintaining respect and empathy for one another, prioritizing quality time together, finding common interests to share, learning how to compromise, putting your partner’s needs before your own, setting reasonable expectations for the relationship and building community with other couples.
Creating a strong and lasting foundation is critical to having a healthy marriage.
It’s important to understand each other’s wants, needs and expectations from the start.
Communication is necessary for building mutual understanding and trust—if your partner can’t honestly share their thoughts with you, then it’s easy for resentments to build up. Establishing common ground helps both partners feel heard and respected which is essential for any marriage. Take the time to learn about each other's values and beliefs in order to better align with one another.
My wife was in the known that my mother's welfare was a priority to me and a home free from outsider interference, as I discussed this extensively before we got married. And from her angle I knew that her value is to have a home where she can be loved and forget her past.She made it known to me.
Don't forget to make time for fun! A healthy relationship needs laughter, playfulness and shared experiences to keep it alive and thriving. We never lack doing this,though my wife is not the type that love drama, she is the serious type of woman,she couldn't understand the reason you laugh at some situations. This never discouraged me, but today I can boldly say she do things unintentionally to cause laughter in the house.It didn't come in one night, it is as a result of years of patients and perseverance.You too can get there. Conflict is an unavoidable part of any relationship, but it doesn't have to ruin your marriage. Learning to manage conflict in a positive way can be the key to a lasting and joyful marriage. The best way to manage conflict is by communicating openly and honestly with each other and understanding each other’s point of view. T
Taking the time to listen, validate feelings, and respect boundaries will help build mutual trust, acceptance, and understanding—all essential ingredients for any successful long-term relationship. When partners learn to disagree without attacking each other's character or self-worth, they can resolve difficult topics with more respect while also allowing tensions to diminish before emotions get out of hand. A healthy partnership should always prioritize compromise over winning so that both individuals can benefit from the outcome.
One the source of a problem in marriage is lack of proper channel of communication.
Open and honest communication is one of the most important ways to build a healthy marriage. It allows spouses to share their feelings with each other, as well as express their needs and boundaries.
Open communication also helps couples identify potential issues before they become too serious and work together to find solutions. By creating an environment where all thoughts, ideas, and concerns are openly discussed without fear of judgment or criticism, couples can maintain a strong and trusting relationship that lasts. Through open dialogue, couples can learn to understand each other’s perspectives better, build empathy for each other’s struggles, and create a deeper bond that will last many years into the future.
Let me give you a scenario, my wife is that type of a woman, who will not talk even when she is hurt but will remind you years later of what you said or did. At a point, we sat ourselves down and discussed on various issues and I wrote them down in an exercise book every thing we discussed about and we apologised to each others and promised not to refer to such issues again in life, for we agreed it was settled there and then, we both signed it.It sound funny, but that is one of the principle,we were free to express our feelings without third parties intervention.We freely discussed our issues from the angle of each party.
In my first post, I told you happy, successful and long lasting marriage or relationship is a great work. Maintaining respect and empathy for one another is essential to the longevity of a marriage. Respect means treating each other with kindness, consideration, courtesy and understanding. It also means being able to accept each other’s shortcomings and flaws. Empathy allows us to understand each other’s feelings, perspectives and experiences. When you are both caring for one another this way it can help create an environment of warmth, harmony and trust in the relationship which is vital for healthy marriages. Making time for each other on a regular basis allows us to listen, understand and attend to one another’s needs as well as celebrate our successes together helping to keep the relationship strong over the years!
In a marriage, quality time together is essential for fostering a healthy relationship. Finding time to spend together can be challenging with busy schedules, but making it a priority is key. This could include scheduling regular date nights or taking a weekend getaway. Take the time to actively listen and connect with each other by engaging in meaningful conversations and activities that you both enjoy. This will create an environment of respect and intimacy, while deepening your bond together as a couple.
Finding common interests to share can help foster a strong bond in any relationship. Activities that bring couples together, such as watching movies, playing sports or taking walks, create an opportunity for open communication and laughter. My wife and I are in so fond of always stroll around our area at least once in a week whenever we are free, nowadays, the frequency has increased. Sharing similar goals and hopes for the future will also add greater depth to the relationship. Discussing books, music or hobbies is another great way to learn more about each other and appreciate one another’s interests. Exploring new places together helps reignite the flame of romance while deepening your understanding of each other's passions. Taking an active interest in the things they love can be a powerful reminder that you care deeply about your partner and their happiness.
Compromise is an essential skill when it comes to making a marriage last. Marriage isn’t easy and differences will arise, but learning how to compromise can help couples deal with their disagreements in a successful and healthy manner. Every couple is different so there is no one-size-fits-all approach to compromise, but some general tips include: taking the time to listen to each other's perspectives, being willing to discuss issues openly and honestly, understanding each other's needs and wants, being flexible when needed and respecting each other's feelings.
With practice, learning how to compromise can help create a strong foundation for an enduring and joyous marriage.Let me be sincere to you there are so many issues that would have tear us apart on this journey if not because we both know how to compromise, it was not easy because we come from two different background.Today we are talking of joyous marriage because we were flexible.You too can, it is your marriage, you have to make it work.
Putting your partner's needs before your own is one of the most important pieces of advice for building a healthy relationship. When you prioritize your partner, you demonstrate that they are worth your time and effort and more importantly, worth loving. This means taking a step back to think about what would make them happy or relieve stress from their life. It could be as small as making them breakfast in bed or running errands for them when they’re too busy. In any circumstance, you should take into consideration how an action will affect your partner before yourself—it’s true that with love comes sacrifice! Let me share a funny scenerio in our marriage, the first two years of our marriage, my wife was not working,anytime some vendors came to my office, my priority of what to buy from them were kitchen utensils, women's ware, some of my colleagues made jest of me then, by the time she started working in a bank I discovered she did not use her money to buy things for herself, rather she would buy men materials, things to be used in the house,it turn out that unknowingly without any prior agreement, I am the one buying what she needs and she was the one buying what I need.It is a pity that Some of those that were making jest of me then we're experiencing serious conflicts in their marriage now, even some has divorced their spouse.
So whatever anyone should say, is their own view, your priority is your vision for your marriage. Setting reasonable expectations for the relationship is essential if couples want to experience a lasting and joyful marriage. Life is unpredictable, so it’s important to recognize that disagreements, disappointments, and difficult moments are inevitable. Think of expectations as agreements between partners that create mutual respect, understanding and trust. Before agreeing on an expectation, couples can consider what each of them needs from the relationship and how to best meet those needs as a team. For example, your partner might expect you to show them appreciation for all their hard work or display patience when discussing conflicts. Being honest with one another about wants and needs not only helps promote peace in the relationship but also strengthens the bond couples have with one another.
Marriage is a beautiful journey to embark on and one that can be filled with joy and happiness. By following the principles, couples can find ways to build a strong, lasting relationship full of love and understanding. With patience, commitment and communication, marriages will be able to thrive for many years to come.
If you have any questions or comment or going through some situations in your marriage or relationship and need my kindid opinion write it in your comment. Please, be aware from the beginning that my advice is going to be based on my experience and not on theory. You are at liberty to adopt it the way it will suite your marriage as you are the only one that understand the temperament of your spouse.
Together I believe we will enjoy our marriage to the fullness.
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