HOW TO CHANGE YOUR PARTNER

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 Human beings are complex creatures, each with their unique perspectives, beliefs, and behaviours In our interactions with others, it is not uncommon to encounter situations where we feel the desire to change someone else. Whether it is a friend, family member, or colleague, we might find ourselves wanting to alter their attitudes, habits, or even their entire personality. But why do we have this inclination to change others rather than focusing on ourselves? the underlying reasons behind this tendency lies on the complexities of human behaviour

One of the primary reasons people seek to change others is rooted in the illusion of control. Human beings have an innate desire to exert influence over their surroundings, including the people in their lives. By attempting to change others, individuals can believe they have power over their environment and can shape it according to their preferences. This sense of control can provide a temporary sense of security and stability in an ever-changing world.

 Another reason for wanting to change others is the projection of one's own insecurities onto others. Sometimes, individuals find it easier to focus on changing someone else's flaws or shortcomings rather than addressing their own. By attempting to modify others, they divert attention away from their own issues and insecurities, temporarily alleviating their own self-doubt and insecurity.

 Human beings have an innate need for acceptance and validation from others. When we encounter someone who possesses different values, beliefs, or behaviours, we may feel compelled to change them to align with our own perspectives. This desire for validation stems from the belief that if others conform to our ideals, it reinforces our own sense of self-worth and validates our choices.

The fear of the unknown is a powerful motivator in human behaviour When faced with someone who is different, whether it be in terms of culture, beliefs, or lifestyle choices, individuals may feel threatened or uncomfortable. In an attempt to alleviate this discomfort, they may seek to change the other person, hoping that by making them more familiar, their own fears and anxieties will diminish.

While some motivations for changing others may stem from selfish reasons, it is important to acknowledge that some individuals genuinely believe they are acting in the other person's best interest. They may see themselves as guides or mentors, wanting to help others improve their lives, habits, or behaviours. This desire to change others can arise from a place of compassion and empathy, even if the approach is misguided.

 In certain situations, the desire to change others may emerge from a need for control and power. Some individuals find satisfaction in manipulating and molding others to fit their own desires. This need for control can stem from deep-seated insecurities, a craving for dominance, or a distorted sense of superiority. It is important to distinguish between healthy influence and unhealthy manipulation in such cases.

The inclination to change others rather than focusing on ourselves is a complex aspect of human behavior.It is essential to recognize the importance of personal growth and self-reflection, focusing on our own journey while respecting the autonomy and individuality of those around us. By doing so, we can foster healthier relationships and promote personal development for both ourselves and others.

I deliberately choose the title of this topic to proof how people love the idea of changing others, I can bet you that this particular blog will receive more traffic than others written earlier.

Let us make this world a better place by focusing on ourselves rather than trying to change others to suit our own plan.





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