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Several years ago, a young woman named Ada lost everything in the space of six months. She had worked hard to build her small business, but one wrong partnership drained her finances. As if that wasn’t enough, she also lost her father to illness. In her darkest days, Ada would sit alone in her room, asking over and over again: “God, why me? What did I do to deserve this?” Fast forward five years later, Ada is now a sought-after counselour and business coach. The same failures that once broke her are now the very tools she uses to guide others. When she meets someone on the verge of giving up, her words pierce through their despair—not because she read them in a book, but because she has lived them. Ada’s story is proof that pain is not punishment—it is preparation. Life, as beautiful as it is, comes with moments of pain, disappointment, and heartache. We all know the sting of betrayal, the weight of loss, or the ache of unfulfilled dreams. For many, these moments feel like cruel puni...

Don’t Let Bitterness Steal Your Brilliance There is a hidden danger that silently robs many people of their joy, their creativity, and even their destiny. It is not failure. It is not poverty. It is not even rejection. It is bitterness . Bitterness is like acid stored in a beautiful vessel—it doesn’t just stay inside; it begins to corrode the very0pp container that carries it. When someone hurts us, betrays us, lies about us, or uses us, our natural instinct is to hold on to the pain, to replay the offense over and over again. But here’s the truth: what you hold on to will eventually hold on to you. Your heart is your superpower. It is the wellspring of your creativity, your kindness, your capacity to love and lead. That is why Proverbs 4:23 warns us: “ Guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it flow the issues of life.” If your heart is poisoned by bitterness , the very brilliance God placed inside you becomes Bitterness doesn’t announce itself with a loud bang. It cr...

  The Truth About People: Why No Mask Can Be Worn Forever Life has a way of teaching us lessons that no textbook can fully explain. One of the most profound truths you will ever encounter is this: in the end, people always reveal who they truly are. No matter how carefully someone tries to hide their intentions, character, or values, time and circumstances will eventually uncover the reality beneath the surface. As the saying goes, “You just have to give them space and time to do so. No mask can be worn forever.” In our personal relationships, workplaces, ministries, and communities, this truth plays out daily. It is both a caution and a comfort—it warns us not to be deceived by appearances, and it reassures us that the truth always finds its way to the light. When we speak of a “mask” in this context, we are not referring to a literal covering of the face. Rather, it is the figurative mask people wear to project a version of themselves they want others to believe. It could be a...

  Building and maintaining a thriving relationship requires cultivating effective attachment styles. It's essential to recognize that past negative experiences don't define future relationships. Disappointments are an inevitable part of life, and it's crucial not to let them dictate your approach to new relationships. Attachment styles, shaped by early interactions with caregivers and parents, significantly influence emotional connections, communication, and conflict resolution in adulthood. Understanding your attachment style and that of your partner can help you develop more secure and positive relationship dynamics. By acknowledging the differences in attachment styles and being open to growth and adaptation, individuals can foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships. This awareness enables partners to navigate challenges more effectively, build trust, and strengthen their bond.. As an individuals you can build stronger, more resilient relationships that bring joy a...

 As promised, I'm excited to share the second practical principle for a thriving marriage , drawn from my almost 40 years of experience in a successful marriage. This principle is the foundation upon which all other aspects of a healthy relationship are built: having a vision . Growing up in a polygamous home, I witnessed firsthand the effects of an abusive marriage . My father's lack of love and care for my mother had a profound impact on our family, and I knew from a young age that I wanted something different for myself and my future family. I made a conscious decision to break free from the cycle of polygamy and create a better life for myself and my loved ones. My vision was clear: I would have a monogamous marriage , provide unconditional love and care for my children, and support them in achieving their educational goals. This vision has been the driving force behind my actions and decisions throughout my marriage . Even when challenges arose and it seemed like giving...

I want you to know that no marriage on earth is hundred percent without friction, foundation is what makes a difference.  Building a strong foundation in Christ is essential for a thriving marriage or relationship . As believers, we are called to anchor our relationships in the unshakeable rock of God's love and wisdom. This foundation is the key to weathering life's storms, fostering a deep and abiding love, and creating a union that honours God.First and foremost, we must recognize that marriage is a sacred institution created by God. In Genesis 2:24 , " therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh". we are reminded that a man and woman become one flesh, united in a bond that reflects Christ's love for the church. This divine design sets the stage for a beautiful and purposeful relationship . As we journey  on, you will see the reason God put this principle in place, the principle of onen...