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  With over six decades of walking the earth, I have come to embrace one indisputable truth: there are no permanent friends and no permanent enemies. Human relationships are not static; they ebb and flow with time, season, and circumstance. People connect with you when your journey aligns with theirs, and sometimes they disconnect when life’s rhythm takes a different turn. Like a drumbeat that changes tempo, the steps of the dance must also adjust. The key lesson? Focus on your personal growth and never stop evolving, for you remain relevant only when people can still associate with the progress they see in you. Think of life as a vast field where relationships are like crops. Some friendships are like seasonal plants—they sprout quickly, serve their purpose, and wither away when their time is up. Others are like perennial trees—rooted and enduring, but even they experience pruning, shedding, and renewal. When we misunderstand this, we set ourselves up for heartbreak. Expecting pe...

Several years ago, a young woman named Ada lost everything in the space of six months. She had worked hard to build her small business, but one wrong partnership drained her finances. As if that wasn’t enough, she also lost her father to illness. In her darkest days, Ada would sit alone in her room, asking over and over again: “God, why me? What did I do to deserve this?” Fast forward five years later, Ada is now a sought-after counselour and business coach. The same failures that once broke her are now the very tools she uses to guide others. When she meets someone on the verge of giving up, her words pierce through their despair—not because she read them in a book, but because she has lived them. Ada’s story is proof that pain is not punishment—it is preparation. Life, as beautiful as it is, comes with moments of pain, disappointment, and heartache. We all know the sting of betrayal, the weight of loss, or the ache of unfulfilled dreams. For many, these moments feel like cruel puni...

Don’t Let Bitterness Steal Your Brilliance There is a hidden danger that silently robs many people of their joy, their creativity, and even their destiny. It is not failure. It is not poverty. It is not even rejection. It is bitterness . Bitterness is like acid stored in a beautiful vessel—it doesn’t just stay inside; it begins to corrode the very0pp container that carries it. When someone hurts us, betrays us, lies about us, or uses us, our natural instinct is to hold on to the pain, to replay the offense over and over again. But here’s the truth: what you hold on to will eventually hold on to you. Your heart is your superpower. It is the wellspring of your creativity, your kindness, your capacity to love and lead. That is why Proverbs 4:23 warns us: “ Guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it flow the issues of life.” If your heart is poisoned by bitterness , the very brilliance God placed inside you becomes Bitterness doesn’t announce itself with a loud bang. It cr...

  The Truth About People: Why No Mask Can Be Worn Forever Life has a way of teaching us lessons that no textbook can fully explain. One of the most profound truths you will ever encounter is this: in the end, people always reveal who they truly are. No matter how carefully someone tries to hide their intentions, character, or values, time and circumstances will eventually uncover the reality beneath the surface. As the saying goes, “You just have to give them space and time to do so. No mask can be worn forever.” In our personal relationships, workplaces, ministries, and communities, this truth plays out daily. It is both a caution and a comfort—it warns us not to be deceived by appearances, and it reassures us that the truth always finds its way to the light. When we speak of a “mask” in this context, we are not referring to a literal covering of the face. Rather, it is the figurative mask people wear to project a version of themselves they want others to believe. It could be a...